“This viral mindset shift is taking over social media, but is it really good for your mental health? Let’s talk.

What is the “let them” theory?

Mel Robbins’ viral concept says:

• If someone leaves? Let them.

• If they judge you? Let them.

• If they don’t support you? Let them.

It’s about letting go and focusing on yourself—but therapists have mixed opinions.

Therapists agree: this theory can be life-changing:

• Reduces anxiety—Stop overanalyzing what others think.

• Encourages boundaries—No more chasing people who don’t respect you.

• Fosters self-acceptance—Focus on your happiness, not external validation.

But beware…it’s not always that simple.

Lily was featured on Sindee Gozansky’s podcast, Heart-Centered Therapist Podcast:

In this episode of the Heart-Centered Therapist podcast, host Sindee Gozansky welcomes Lily Thrope, LCSW, the founder of Thrope Therapy in Manhattan. Lily, a certified intuitive eating counselor, shares her expertise in supporting individuals with eating disorders, body image concerns, and related mental health issues. The conversation covers the role of community in recovery, Lily's personal experience with an eating disorder, and her therapeutic approach.

She also highlights her innovative Recovery Supper Club, a supportive dining experience for individuals in eating disorder recovery. The episode offers valuable insights for therapists interested in working with eating disorders and provides encouragement for those unsure about seeking help for disordered eating.

Whether it’s navigating bad body image days, coping with negative thoughts, or finding ways to cultivate a more positive body image, Lily’s insights offer a great starting point for anyone struggling with their own body image.

As a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Thrope Therapy LCSW PLLC a group private practice in NYC, I have a deep appreciation for the “Let Them” theory and think it has roots in a few psychotherapy modalities.

The “Let Them” theory is a form of “radical acceptance,” which is a skill used in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). “Radical acceptance” means fully and completely accepting reality as it is, without fighting, denying, or judging it, even when reality is painful or difficult. DBT skills like mindfulness, emotion regulation and radical acceptance are a great foundation for being able to practice the “Let Them” theory. The theory relies on an individual’s ability to use those skills to notice when they are worrying about what others think or do. Mindfulness is essential when working on any personal growth.

The holidays often bring situations where more time is spent around family. It can be comforting, festive and wonderful and equally stressful and anxiety-inducing. Tense relationships, family drama, and/or unresolved conflicts can make spending holidays with relatives challenging. These events can be especially difficult if you find yourself struggling to align with your family’s viewpoints and opinions. If you are looking for some peace during this holiday season, grounding exercises can help you stay calm and present. When navigating hectic schedules, family dynamics, or the pressure to plan the perfect meal, there are simple practices to ground us and enable us to enjoy the season more fully. See below for a few ideas:

Lily Thrope was featured on Lauren Bongiorno’s podcast, Reclaim Your Rise:

The Realities of Eating Disorders and Body Image Struggles for Type 1 Diabetics with Lily Thrope, LCSW

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by therapist and childhood friend Lily Thrope!

Lily Thrope, LCSW specializes in supporting individuals who experience anxiety, disordered eating, low self-esteem, relationship stress, and LGBTQIA-related issues. Through her work, Lily helps her clients find the confidence to face these issues and find ways to live their happiest and most authentic lives.

In this intimate convo, we talk about…

• Why people with T1D might have a predisposition to struggle with disordered eating

• What the term “Food Freedom” means for diabetics 

• How we worked through our personal disordered eating journeys to foster a healthy relationship with our bodies, find balance with food, and discover self-love. 

Lily Thrope was featured in two episodes of Caitie Corradino’s podcast, Whole, Full, & Alive:

Eating Disorder Recovery Q&A and Living an Authentic Life with Therapist Lily Thrope

Things We Dive Into In This Episode: 

1. Is FULL recovery from disordered eating and body dysmorphia even possible?

2. How did we know when we were recovered?

3. What is a good definition of "health?"

Listen to the podcast here.

Why Eating Disorders Go Unnoticed and How to Heal in a Way that Works for You with Lily Thrope

Things We Dive Into In This Episode:

1. Why eating disorders often go unnoticed and how fitness culture contributes to them.

2. Why eating disorder recovery is personal; no single solution works for everyone.

3. How you can use therapy, nutrition therapy, and other modalities to sit in discomfort and ultimately heal from food anxiety and eating-related challenges.

Lily Thrope was featured on Meg McCabe’s podcast, Full and Thriving:

Am I Enough? Mastering Body Acceptance, Burnout and Constant Striving with Lily Thrope, LCSW

In this episode of Full and Thriving, we welcome special guest Lily Thrope, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of Thrope Therapy. Lily specializes in helping individuals heal eating disorders and body image issues, taking a compassionate and authentic approach.

Whether you are active on social media or not, it’s probably had an impact on your life in one way or another. Let’s be honest—most of us have a love-hate relationship with it, and it’s the same story when it comes to how it impacts our relationship with food and body image. But, hey, why delete Instagram when you can just add more stress to your life, right?

In this episode, I’m joined by Lily Thrope, a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in NY, Massachusetts and Connecticut. Together, we’re diving into how social media can serve as a breeding ground for comparison, misinformation, and, surprise surprise, worsening self-esteem.

In today’s fast-paced world, escaping screens feels nearly impossible. Whether you are using them for work, school, or fun, screens consume much of our daily lives. While technology brings many benefits, it can also be overstimulating, draining, and cause disconnection from others. Striking a balance is crucial for mental health and overall well-being.

Neuroplasticity is the brain’s incredible way of changing and reorganizing itself through life. Traditionally, scientists believed that the brain was "fixed" after a certain age, but modern research has shown that the brain is changeable and adaptable, even as we age. Our brains will form new neural networks each day, but there are certain things you can do to stimulate growth. Here are a few exercises to improve and increase neuroplasticity:

In a society that's so consumption-focused like ours, it may feel impossible not to fill our space up with sparkly new things. However, once we make these purchases, our spaces begin to fill and we might feel overwhelmed by the clutter. The process of cleaning our personal spaces can feel very overwhelming, but a cluttered room or area can reflect a cluttered mind. Taking small steps, we can go through our things and declutter to ultimately find clarity in our space and mind. See below for some essential decluttering tips: 

Emotional numbness can be described as feeling desensitized or disconnected from your emotions, your environment or surroundings. In life, there are different events that impact our emotions. Think about birthdays, holidays, large life events, relationship milestones, and losses. When a person experiences emotional numbness, they aren’t reacting to these moments and may well be protecting themselves from feeling them. Emotional numbness can be a defense mechanism, a place we go within our nervous systems to protect us from feeling all these emotions.

Are there certain topics that trigger your anxiety? Is there an environment or atmosphere that consistently overwhelms you? When we take care of ourselves, we need to be aware of places, people and things that cause us to feel badly. This is what ‘protecting your peace’ is all about. Knowing what might bring you down is important in managing your own well-being and emotional health. If you have difficulty protecting your peace, see below for a few tips:

With inclement weather, colder temperatures and the increased desire to stay inside, it can be hard to reach out and stay connected to friends and family. As a result, we may be missing out on essential social interaction. Withdrawal and isolation, particularly during the colder months, can negatively impact both our emotional and physical health. However, with a bit of planning, creativity, and commitment, you can maintain, even strengthen your social connections. See below for four tips on how to remain social and connected during colder times:

As the days grow shorter and temperatures drop, the transition toward winter often brings changes in mood, energy levels and overall well-being. While winter can be a time of holiday cheer and days off work, it can also be a time of darkness, isolation, and sadness. That’s why it's crucial to incorporate self-care into our routines. Here are six practical self-care tips to help you take care of yourself during the winter: