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If you have felt afraid of food your entire life, or avoided food centered events, you might be navigating something more than picky or restrictive eating. Feeling afraid of food or avoiding social situations can have a much deeper root than you realize. I have sat with clients bravely sharing how certain textures or foods make them feel immobilized and afraid. I have sat with clients whose fear of vomiting has prevented them from eating and taking deep breaths in years. All of these clients express a fear that something is broken within them. You might have wondered what is different about your relationship with food, and this guide is here to help you understand more about ARFID. ARFID is real, it is recognized, and it is treatable at any age.
Lily is the founder of Thrope Therapy, a boutique group practice in Midtown Manhattan specializing in eating disorders, body image, and related concerns. She is a licensed clinical social worker and certified intuitive eating counselor, and the founder of the Recovery Supper Club, a free monthly dinner gathering for people in recovery in New York City.
Adolescence is genuinely a complicated time for food and bodies. Teenagers are undergoing real physiological changes. They are developing their own identities and testing independence, including around food choices. They are swimming in a social media environment that is saturated with diet culture, fitness content, and body commentary. Some food experimentation and self-consciousness about appearance is developmentally typical. This makes it genuinely hard to know when something has shifted from normal teenage behavior into something that warrants real concern. The line is not always obvious, and teenagers are often skilled at minimizing what is happening, whether or not they are doing so consciously.
